The Approved List
Certain items are on the Approved List: Happy and Bashful. Others are on the Discouraged List: Grumpy and Dopey. Some are in-between: Sneezy and Sleepy. (What about Doc?)
As much as I aim to stick to the Approved List, sometimes I venture into the realm of the Discouraged List. When I notice this happening, I usually try to brush those items aside, but often this just pushes them into the Discouraged Bucket, which eventually overflows, soaking me and whomever else is around in embarrassment. Unfortunately, embarrassment is quite sticky– so sticky in fact that sometimes it doesn’t even come off after a shower.
Lately, I’ve started to question the wisdom of suppressing items on the Discouraged List. Is it better to risk a little embarrassment in the present than to be spotless now and have to wash off a bucket-load of embarrassment in the future? I think so. Doesn’t everyone venture into the realm of the Discouraged List every now and then?
If I accept that ignoring items on the Discouraged List is not a reasonable solution, the hard part is how to handle these items in a way that isn’t threatening or as embarrassing as waiting for the Discouraged Bucket to overflow. Admittedly, I am still working on this and am open to suggestions.